"From then on, the difference became clear. Itís the male band members who donít take you seriously, and when you get upset with how youíre treated, ask you if youíre menstruating. Itís the promoters and planners who screw you, then call you a diva when you assert yourself. Itís the kids who donít talk to you after your set, but talk to your male bandmates because they assume youíre only there for show. Itís the people who think youíre sleeping with the guitarist, the people who assume youíre queer, or the journalists who mention your weight in reviews. Itís every single time a producer has told me I canít play guitar on my own record because ďsweetie, youíre not a studio musicianĒ or ďsing it again, but naked.Ē
Most importantly, itís the baggage I have to carry that my male bandmates donít. I have to worry about walking to the car alone to grab my guitar; I have to worry about where we are staying and if the strangers who own the floor Iím sleeping on will assault me in the middle of the night, even though itís unlikely. I canít tell you how many nights Iíve clung to the side of my male bandmates when weíre sleeping, just to feel safe. I canít drink too much or take a drink from a stranger at an after-party wherever we are staying, because I canít be out of control."
Read the entire essay here. The first part of this series, which was written by Lauren Denitzio (The Measure [SA]), elicited quite the response from the Punknews community. Give us your thoughts on Mariel's take in the comments.